"men are from mars, women are from venus" presents the rubber band theory

So the rubber band theory, John Gray's slightly corny breakdown of the intimacy cycle, goes something like this:

Men sometimes need more intimacy but at other times, they become saturated with it and need time to cool off. A woman will then tend to react in one of three ways:

1. She freaks out and starts chasing after the guy, which in turn freaks him out and pushes him to run further away.
2. She becomes bitter and starts pulling away herself, and their both pulling in separate directions puts a strain on their relationship.
3. She relaxes, realizing this is just a normal stretch in their relationship and things will come back around.

Soo- what exactly does this have to do with an elastic band? Not a whole lot, to be perfectly honest. But! an elastic is often used as a metaphor to represent this theory.. If the two partners are on the inside of a taut elastic, on opposite ends, then the woman chasing after the man will cause the elastic to collapse. On the other hand, if the woman starts pulling away, then the elastic will eventually break. Therefore, Gray seems to be suggesting here that stillness is the ultimate relationship move- if you care at all about that elastic.

Exhibit A: Stillness is a Move